I asked one my friend whatz his view on marriage, the blogpost can be read here, this discussion is with another friend of mine…..
My friend asked:
Why Marriage ? Why not have a mating period then decide which partner to take and produce a offspring and let them on their own way so that they produce more offsprings ?
My thoughts:
Are we in this world only to produce offsprings ? many dont agree….then what is that our anchestors called as Marriage and laid out some rules on how to lead a married life, why are their rules at all.
Humans have this tendancy of being lazy, they take time to crawl, walk, talk, run, flirt, have sex(13-16 years atleast), be on themselves. So are we really marrying just to make our kids grow ? NO. This can also be done without marriage. We know what are “Genes” the complex structure that gets inherited from our parents, so we have a footprint of our parents in us, there are somethings called body vibrations which are also unique for each indivual, its also a kind of foot prints that we live to our kids.
Think of marriage as a planning that you do and get commited to it for just one lifetime(a very short period), some plans workout very well, some becos of improper planning does not work out very well and end up in disaster, so inorder for you to do something for your country / world, we join hands, and our body is adapated to this that you will be able to sense who is meant for you, (all mamals have this tendeency to get attracted towards certain females)….LOVE is the word for this feeling that happens between the two, elevation in heart beats, deep breathing etc.,. So now you love a girl, you get commited to her, (marry her !!!! as our anchestors said), perform rituals so that everybody in town knows that you are commited to someone and that someone is commited to you)…all other marriage customs are just bull shit. In Hindu you do a 3 day cermony for marriage…out of all these rituals they do, there is a very interesting part (which is always narrated in Sanskrit, and many dont understand what the Prohits say), which tells you how to lead you life after marriage (after you get commited), what that girl means to you, what will you be living for. So when you are in love, you already know these things, and i was amazed as how they were so well documented and preserved for this much generations….(fortunately i got a Pandit who explained each and everything in Tamil, mother tounge of mine, and told me what the Sanskrit texts exactly means)
( dont ask why only two has to be together, why not three or more, nobody until this day have given any kind of definitions as why we HAVE only TWO HANDS / LEGS / EYES, YEARS…)…two always provides balanace, harmony…Iam not just saying marriage between an andrea and gynaeka !!!!! it can of any kind, until you both understand what you are living for….
“ok!!! you are confusing me!!! “, my friend says and asks “WHY DO YOU REALLY WANT TO FIND A PARTNER, WHY NOT SPEND YOUR LIFE ALONE and SERVE”
I say – you can get admitted to a hospital when you are sick, you can buy/prepare food, you can have sex with anyone you wish, you can have kids, dontate sperm for research, make more kids. I honestly dont have any convincing answer to this, but this is what i have in my mind: -
EGGS HATCH WHEN ONLY GIVEN A PROPER TEMPERATURE FOR THEM TO HATCH, likewise when you make love, you need to be perfect, no alcohol, no ciggrates, no drugs, no medications, healthy body, relaxed state of mind, it does not matter whether you are FAT or SKINNY or muscular, so when both of you join at this point of time, the offspring that gets produced will be one your best natural byproduct, a child, which has your signature on it for the rest of the generations to come. And this bonding that you have can only be had with the women you trust / committed to you / be with you / you be with her. You both have spend so much of your life for this offspring, then why throw it in the bin, stay away for them, neglect them — you stay commited, raise them, inherit what you learn to them, transfer your knowledge to them, teach them to survive. If everyone does this, then why are there orphanages, why disabilities, why hatred, counsllers who suck you momney for nothing…..
There are people who live by the laws of nature, and then there are people who fall into the categories of marriage(as stated in the blogpost i have given before) , then you meet the THIRD KIND, who understand wht it means to get married (not to bore, not to have sex, not to take care of parents), but to lead a life that you are born for, do your duty as a son / as a CITIZEN of the Planet / as a Partner / as a Father / as a Leader)….
This is MY view on marriage !!!!
If these does not make anysense, let me know, I will try to use different words the next time….
cheers J
